Bouquet of Flowers

Moments like these make you realize even though you are miles and miles apart from the person you love, the distance doesn't matter.

My soldier was on a ruck march this day, I believe. I will probably use the term, "rucking" again, so let me go ahead and define it.  For all of you non-military people,  a ruck march is a long walk/jog/shuffle/run with a very heavy backpack the Army uses as a form of PT (physical training).  Ruck marches tend to vary in distance and time.

Bragging moment:  My soldier just did a 26 mile ruck march a few weeks ago.  I know, he's awesome.

Anyway, during a time of no contact, he was rucking one afternoon and stopped to pick me the best bouquet of flowers I have ever received!

Little things like this are really what makes the distance between us bearable.  I am really missing him today, especially since we did not get to spend the Thanksgiving holiday together.  Only 36 more days until we are reunited! HOORAY, or maybe I should say HOOAH (military slang for hell yeah!)?! 

Until Next Time.

Always.

     



The Rant

So, I gotta do it....the post that every military relationship can relate to.  Possibly the dumbest, most frequent question I hear when asked about my relationship.

Do you miss him? Are. You. Serious. Let me pause as I think about that one....

OF COURSE I MISS HIM YOU HONKY FOOL!

Here are my words of advice to all of you that have a friend that is going through a time of limited to zero contact, a deployment, a time where her whole world is temporarily turned upside down.  Do not ever, under any circumstances, ask these questions or make these statements:

1.  Refer to the question above.
2.  Wow, my boyfriend hasn't really made time for me lately either.   I've only seen him three times this week. ( I personally got that one when I had not even talked to my soldier in WEEKS.  I had to pull my jaw up from the floor.)
3.  My least favorite-How do you do it? I could never handle my man being gone all the time.

Let me break this down.

1.  Do you miss your significant other if they go away for a weekend or wish they were home for dinner when they have to work late?  Yes?  Try going weeks after weeks without seeing him or hearing his voice.  Never being able to make plans because everything changes on a daily basis, literally.  Next time you want to ask the dreaded question, don't.    

2.  I honestly cannot even come up with a nice way to break this down.  So I will abide by the-if you don't have anything nice keep your lips zipped-rule.  For your sake, don't ever be the one that says this to a woman who's husband is deployed.  You may (hopefully) get smacked.

3.  What the heck do you mean how do I do it?  Here it is: YOU JUST DO IT, Y'ALL.  Boom. Secret is out.  It's hard as hell but worth every second.  As my soldier said to me once, "Behind every great man, is a great woman."  Not saying I am a perfect girlfriend (I am absolutely far from it), but I do know one thing-not just anyone could do it.

I, along with other women in my position, really do love talking about what it's like to be in this type of relationship.  We like to brag about our men and their accomplishments!  But trust me, steer clear of those three statements-along with anything else insensitive- if you want your friendship to last.  Please and thank you.    

Sighhhhhhh-end rant.

Until Next Time.
Always.